i thought i can write it yesterday but it was late
thats why you see it now
and it's no it's not a boxing much as you maybe imagine when you read the title
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This topic is about how women and men deals with there problems and why should both of them understand the other to get a wonderful life
since ladies first i'll start with women
women
women have a different way when they wanna deal with problems comparing to men
in general , women prefer to talk about there problems and try to discuss it with the ones she love or like or trust
a woman always to talk about her problems , she can't keep it inside her or she will be so sad , talking about it will make her feel much better
but she choose the person she gonna tell carefully
men
men act differently
when a man face a big problem he remain silent most of the time
he try to solve this problem by him self and he just don't talk about it
he try to find the solution without asking any one
but , in case he failed to find the solution he try to take an advice from a person he respect and trust his judgment , this person often is another man and in a very few cases its a woman ,why ? , you will know soon
NOW , we defined how both a man and a woman behave when it comes to problems solving , these problems could be of any kind
an important question is
how to deal with this kind of behavior
let's see
since i'm a man and we already talked about women first , i'll talk about men first this time
first advice is
listen to her
she will respect , trust, love you more and more when you listen
and it's NOT just listening , you should listen carefully and be a smart listener
what's that suppose to mean ? , well
1- you should make her fell that you are interesting in every word she says and you are completely with her
some men just say ah ,yeah , ok , right , when they are reading a newspaper or watching TV that's totally wrong , because you will lose her in this way
BTW , you should really listen and care about what she said not just pretend that you are listening , she trusted you and you should be responsible
2- be a smart listener
women don't always means what the say and that's a FACT
so many times the say something and they mean totally another thing
and they expect you to understand them and they will have a big disappointment if you didn't
So , how you gonna know what they think and want ? you can
try to listen to every letter not only word she say
try to watch her body language because this is really what is matter and
women use it all the time
especially the eyes and the way she is looking to you , that's tell you a lot
listen to the way she is pronounce the words , that's matter too
finally , if you really know her you will easily know exactly what she wants
and, always encourage her to tell you what she wants by touching her skin or by using a sweet words or with a smile or fondling her hair that's really works great in most cases
BE HER SHELTER and help her to decide what she wants because most of them just don't know what they exactly wants
OK, now its women turns
lucky you women , men is much more simple than you are
just try to
1- make them feel it's there decision and they in total control
HOW ? Well
socially smart women do that all the times
they decide what they wants and make the man do what they(woman) wants BUT
in the same time makes him feels that he wants that and its his decision
even if the man knows that he is not the one who decided that and his woman did that to make him feel that's he is the leader he will be happy in most cases and he will respect an love her even more .. maybe looks silly but that's the truth
ALWAYS MAKE HIM FEEL THAT HE IS THE LEADER
2-don't ever in any situation injure his pride
even if wanted to advice him because you love him , and you didn't mean that at all
for example on that
if you with him in the car on a road and he looks like he lost the way and keep driving in the same way again and again
if you said
(i think you lost the way) and you tried to help him
you will notice that he refuse that and start to become angry every time you try to help him and he try to find the way him self
THAT'S CALLED PRIDE
you made him feel he is unable to do something and that's what conjured him
and again it's look silly but that's the truth
3- always show him the leader in front of the people especially the ones you know
that's really makes him love you so much
finally you may think its only the western man who act like that
BUT
men are all the same in general
maybe the western man is a little over because the way the community deals with it but still , men is the same
there is really sooo many things in my mind but the topic became so long and maybe it will be so boring
SO , hope you like it , god be with you
الإثنين أغسطس 11, 2014 5:56 pm من طرف 
